Acceptance v. expectations

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Acceptance v. expectations

12th January 2016

I was thinking about this just the other day, how we tend to have more disagreements or arguments with family members than friends or strangers.

And I was wondering why that is… what’s the difference in our relationships with family that allows us or causes us to react more when our buttons are pushed?

My conclusion is that with family members, be it parents, partners or children, we have very high expectations of them, and often we expect them to be or to think similarly to ourselves and this creates a lot of discord because they are likely to be different to us.

Whereas, with friends, colleagues or strangers, we are more accepting that they are different and therefore we have little expectation and greater tolerance.

Now, if you think about it, isn’t that a shame, since it’s our nearest and dearest that matter to us the most yet they’re the ones we are more likely to be intolerant with them and create tensions, rifts and disharmony.

Do you agree? I welcome your thoughts in the comments section below.


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