Life Coaching for Positive Thinking

The law of attraction

If you have read or followed leaders in this field such as Dr Wayne Dyer or Deepak Chopra, you will have an awareness of how there is a concept referred to as The Law of Attraction, which implies that as much as you would like to attract what you want, you don’t, what you do attract is a reflection of what you are.

For example, the more you are love, the more you will attract love into your life. And the same goes with the more you are angry, the more you will attract anger into your life. These are simplistic examples to help demonstrate the concept of the Law of Attraction; and, if you take time to reflect on your life and be true to yourself about what is happening in your life, are the events and people in your life more positive or more negative, do things flow for you or are you constantly facing barriers and setbacks, then look at who you are, what you believe and you will find that what goes on outside, is a reflection of who you are on the inside.

The power of intention

Every action we take, started as a thought; every thought, started as an intention. If I intend to have a hot drink, I think about what I would like to drink, a coffee or a tea, and then I take action.

Intentions can be very effective, if you take time to focus on them, if you are clear about the outcome you desire, and if they are true to who you are. If you have an intention to do well in an exam, and you are so fearful of failure that you cannot focus when you revise, then you will not achieve your intention. Whereas, with that same intention, if you create a revision plan and trust that the time you invest will bring about a positive outcome because your intention is to do well, you will find that you are able to achieve so much more than you ever imagined.

Part of the process of the power of intention is that after you have set an intention, having been clear about that intention, is to let go of the outcome; to be detached and to trust that the universe will bring about the results you desire. For many, this is a strange concept because we tend to believe that we have to be in control for things to happen. Being clear about what you desire, with focus on the action in the right direction towards your desired outcome, letting go of control and trusting are the key elements to the power of intention working for you.  This classic Vedic text, known as the Upanishads, states the following:

You are what your deepest desire is.
As your desire is, so is your intention.
As your intention is, so is your will.
As your will is, so is your deed.
As your deed is, so is your destiny.?

Get a better mindset

Do this by changing your thoughts from negative to positive; our behaviour is an outcome of our thinking, so this change has a wider benefit. Be aware of what you say to yourself, as well as what you say to others, the more you notice your thoughts, the more choice you have to change this. Beware of the two Cs? notice how much you criticise and complain these both indicate a negative mindset, so with focus and effort, the less you criticise yourself and others, and the less you complain about anything, the more you will create a better mindset for yourself.

Examining your beliefs and behaviours

If you want to be in charge of your life outcomes, it is essential that you are aware of your beliefs, because your beliefs impact your behaviours. We all have different beliefs, and our beliefs are based on what we heard, saw or learnt during our earlier years, and through life experiences. These beliefs may not be true; the problem is that we naturally act as if they are true, and you will look for and constantly find evidence to support your belief, and this can affect what you do in your life and the success you achieve.

How to create visions and goals

We have a dream about what we wish for, and that is our vision; we want to put this into action, and that is where we start to set specific goals. In time, our combined achieved goals, lead us to realising our vision.

To create a vision, allow yourself to daydream, to fantasise about what you truly wish for, and to start writing it down, at random, collecting all your dreams, thoughts and ideas. Be clear about why you want each of those things you have written down and to be sure this is part of your true vision, ask yourself why once again; it is essential to be sure about what you absolutely want and the reason, the purpose behind the wanting. Being clear, specific and completely true to yourself and what YOU want is the key to creating a vision that you will move towards.

To create goals use your vision and start with the first step, something you know you can achieve, and relatively quickly and easily; this will inspire and motivate you to achieve your other goals, even the more challenging ones.

Setting goals

Ideally, you will set SMART goals these are:

• Specific
• Measurable
• Achievable
• Realistic
• Timely

These criteria will enable you to know where you are at any point in time, on your path to making the goal happen, and will motivate you by having clearly defined steps as part of the process.

Selecting role models

Choose someone who inspires and motivates you, who is kind, and whose values are similar to yours or ones that you respect and aspire to; and be very clear about what specific characteristics that person has that you admire. Ideally, it would be someone who you know, who would be happy to invest time in sharing about themselves with you and who would support and encourage you to develop yourself. Remember, it is not about copying that person, it is about developing your own style and ways of doing things, with the awareness of what your role model can add to who you are that will enhance you.

Confidence to stand up for yourself

Be assertive; be clear about what you need and how you feel. And avoid saying too much or justifying yourself, this tends to indicate a lack of confidence; be succinct, be direct and to the point. Believe that you matter, because you do! If you believe you matter, you will find it easier to have the confidence to stand up for yourself and the person opposite you will feel that too.

Happiness

The choice we make to think positive, to view situations through rose-coloured spectacles rather than grey ones, has the added benefit of contributing to our happiness. When we allow something to upset us in the moment, when we have a negative thought or reaction to a situation, if we were to check-in and ask ourselves, would this matter in 3 years time? Would I even remember this event, this moment, in three years time? Most likely the answer is ‘no’ which therefore begs the question, why waste your emotions on this now?

You can choose to be angry, negative, unhappy or you can choose to learn to do it differently, to give out happy and positive thoughts, to speak in an uplifting and inspiring way, which will make you and others around you feel good, feel better, and be happier. If you have never done this before, start practising and notice the difference it makes in your life; you will only gain by being happier.